‘To achieve ‘being normal’ is an impossible and self-negating demand we place on ourselves.’
What does it mean to be normal? Now that really is the million-dollar question! Is there even such a thing as normal? Aren’t we all different? Why do we try so hard to conform and be the same as everyone else? Surely, by not being true to ourselves, we risk failure and disappointment, as well as a life filled with stress and anxiety.
I have spent a lifetime striving to be what I thought of as “normal”, trying to fit in and be accepted. Why did I feel it was necessary? For the first 62 years of my life I did not understand why I felt so ‘different’, why I did not seem to fit in. Finally, I have a reason and the relief is palpable, but I realise that I now do not know who I really am.
After so many years of trying to perfect the ‘normal’ persona, it’s difficult to drop but I am gradually learning self-acceptance, which has had a huge positive impact on my self-confidence and self-esteem. I can be myself and not feel bad about it! I no longer see myself as inadequate or a failure. I have the confidence to say ‘I AM A SUSAN’ and be happy with whatever that might mean, in the past, the present or the future. I am learning to be proud of who I am and what I have achieved in my life. I am who I am and that is perfectly fine.
‘Without all our differences, the world would be a far less interesting and exciting place. I want to preach from the rooftops: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING DIFFERENT!’
I believe it is never too late to gain such an insight and understanding of one’s life. At last I realise that there is no normal; it is an artificial construct of the society in which we live. To achieve ‘being normal’ is an impossible and self-negating demand we place on ourselves.
Without all our differences, the world would be a far less interesting and exciting place. I want to preach from the rooftops: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING DIFFERENT!